Showing posts with label mental transformation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mental transformation. Show all posts

September 26, 2011

My Path to Spirituality and the Power of Positive Thinking



Sky and Clouds - sun rays



What is spirituality?

Spirituality is often thought of as a religion, but it is simply a way of life. There are many forms in which people choose to practice spirituality. Although not a religion, spirituality is sometimes affiliated with religion; based on how one may think of it and it's connection to a higher power. For some, spirituality has nothing to do with religion, but is the process of self-discovery by finding out who they are and what they want to be. For others, it is feeling and showing love to all living creatures. Spirituality is practiced in many different forms, and all of them are correct; it is the practice of being happy (under grace and in all perfect ways) without fear of judgement.

Personally, my favorite and most effective form of spirituality (for me) is the practice of positive thinking. In the beginning it was difficult, and sometimes it still is. Ten years ago, I knew that I could receive whatever I wanted if I put my mind to it. I was upset about certain circumstances, but whatever I put my attention on the most worked out for the best, and I had no idea what spirituality was.

Suddenly, my life changed. I married a wonderful man and had three beautiful children. However, my life was at a stand still that was slowly riding a downhill slope. We went from two vehicles to none. Our income decreased dramatically and our bill increased due to our move to California. I also went from having a strong friend base to none at all. My weight increased and so did my husband's. We were both depressed.

The great thing about it, we did not live in our moments of depression together. One of us was always strong enough to carry the other through. So what does this have to do with the power of positive thinking? A lot!


When did positive thinking work for me?

The age of 19 is the first time I can remember the power of positive thinking working for me. I worked in the mall at a job I could not stand. I felt unappreciated, undervalued, and I knew I deserved better. I randomly met a girl who worked at a different location in the mall. She told me about a job opportunity and I filled out an application and insisted on an interview that day. My mother did not like the idea of me working there, but I knew everything was going to be great. Once I was hired I had affirmed to myself (daily) that I was going to become the assistant manager. Within a week, I had received three raises and became a supervisor. Another week later, a position for Assistant Manager became available and I was promoted again. All of this took place before I had even received my first pay check. At this point in my life, I had no idea about what the power of positive thinking was.

By the time I was 21, I was ready for more income. At the time, for me, that meant a different job. I knew of a store around the corner from my current job that was rumored to pay their employees extremely well. Daily, I thought about what it would be like to work there. The Manager there, began passing by the office I worked at almost everyday. I thought about asking him for a job, but I told myself "No! He is going to ASK me!". Suddenly he stopped walking by and would come in and ask for printer paper. I thought this was odd. I mean, what well running business doesn't have printer paper. After sometime passed, he asked me to work for him. At first I actually hesitated because I did feel loyal to my current employer. What was I thinking?! Gratefully the Universe heard me scream inside and offered me a few more opportunities which I finally took advantage of.  I took the job and almost tripled my income! Again, I did not know about this power at that time. By the way, he never ran out printer paper!

I could go on forever about how this power has worked for me. But I will end this segment by telling you of situation of a which I did now about this power.

 A marriage and three children later, my family was living in a mold infested two bedroom apt without proper furniture, and without a vehicle. I felt alone, embarrassed, ashamed,  and I lacked self confidence for the first time in my life. I was a poor black girl from the ghetto, who was absent of a "ghetto" mentality (which is just a poor mentality, if you ask me).  I had made myself accustomed to a certain lifestyle and I expected to live it, but I wasn't.

We did not have the income to provide a down payment for a vehicle or the extra money to save for a used one on Craigslist. By this time, I knew of the power, but found it difficult to practice. It was easier to be depressed. I felt that the current facts of my situation did not support what I desired most. I had reflected back to when I was 19, and how everything just "fell into place" for me. I did this often and one day I told myself "I still get what I desire, because I say so!". I called a few car dealerships until I found one I thought I could work with. They ran my credit and told me I would have to pay a huge down payment. I did not give up. I told them "O.K., I will call you back when I have it.". My husband was a personal trainer and business was not booming at all! That same day two clients called him in need of his service. He offered them different prices for certain packages. The packages they choose cost the exact amount we needed for our down payment, total! We purchased our Vehicle, and moved out of our mold infested 2 bedroom apartment, and into a seven bedroom house!

All of those wonderful things happened with just the power of positive thinking. In the last scenario, I did not get a job and I did not borrow money. I asked the creator, I told myself it would happen, I believed it would happen,  I felt it, and acted on it as if I knew it would, and it did! Sometimes, what we ask for happens through those that are close to us.

Ask exactly for what you want.

One day my husband and I mentioned that we would like to sign up for health insurance with Blue Cross. We did not think about it again. A few days later I received a letter stating that our family qualified for Blue Cross insurance under a plan they offered  for low-income families. We are never ones to think of ourselves as "low-income", because we know we can change our circumstance at any moment. I looked at the letter and laughed. I laughed pretty hard, because I could not help but think that the Universe had a great sense of humor. That is not what I wanted, but it reminded me that the power does work, but I needed to state exactly what is I want.

So when you ask for something, ask for it to happen under grace and in all perfect ways. If you are asking for money, you do not want to receive it through the death of a loved one. So ask for the exact amount you would like, and finish by saying "...under grace and in all perfect ways.".


A coincidence or divine power?

A couple of months ago I was speaking with my mother, who lives half way across the country. She told me she saw a commercial that advertise a beautiful Louis Vuitton purse. My mother had gasped and said aloud "I want that purse.". The next day my mother had left the house to run errands, when she returned the exact purse that said she wanted was hanging on her fence. It was in great condition. A neighbor had saw it on the street and hung it on her fence.

My mother does not believe in the power of positive thinking. Nonetheless, I tried to explain to her why she had received the purse. She called me a witch. I just had to laugh. But was this merely a coincidence or the work of a divine power?


Warning:

You are attracting what ever it is you think about the most. If your thoughts are full of great things, you will attract great things. If your thoughts are full of negative ones, you will attract negative things.


Have we unknowingly been taught the power as children?

As a grown woman with children, I am beginning to notice the hidden messages in cartoons. I truly believe that we have ,unknowingly, been taught the power of positive thinking. Maybe is was hidden because the message did not convey the preachings of most Christian religions.

Peter Pan told us that as long as we think happy thoughts we can fly.

Green Lantern's image is based on positive thinking and using will power to overcome fear. "....those who worship evil's might, beware my power, Green Lantern light.". In other words, will power and positive thinking (the light) will overcome fear (evil). Not to mention that whatever Green Lantern imagined in his mind, he created.

In the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy was able to go home anytime she wanted. She just had to close her eyes and click her heels three times. She had to follow the yellow brick road (trials and tribulations), keep staying optimistic, and close her eyes and click her heels (meditate), and believe and she would receive what she wanted.

How to obtain a spiritual life?

There are many ways to begin a spiritual path. I am still working on perfecting mine, however here are a few suggestions that have worked for me:


-  I (for the most part) have stopped caring about others think of me. Good or bad, it does not matter. I live my life for me, and me only. Everyone else is just a passenger that I welcome into my life, and allow to enjoy this journey with me.

- For you to become a true believe of this power; in-vision yourself obtaining something that is out of the ordinary in your life. Start with something small like a flower. In-vision yourself holding it, or smelling it. Do not worry about how it will happen. Just imagine that you have it and feel the feeling you would feel, if you did. Suddenly your vision will come to life.


- Hang around people that are either where you want to be or who are already currently there.

- If you must, take baby steps. My husband can think of a huge goal and manifest it. I feel intimidated with a huge goal, so I break it down in steps and manifest each one at a time.

These are just a few suggestions, and they are not the wrong way nor the right way. They are my way, and they work for me. I hope they help you, but if not, you can find your own way. I wish you all well in your path to spirituality. Peace and blessing.




June 29, 2010

More Than A Pacifier

Every since I became a mother and a wife, my life has become less and less about me. Sound familiar? For my first year of motherhood I was a working mother while my husband was in the Army. I worked between 60-80 hours per week (depending on the time of year). I loved my job, until I became a mother. I despised the guilt I felt everyday when it was time to leave my daughter. 

Shortly after she turned one we moved to California. My husband worked from home while I worked a forty hour work week. It was great! I felt I had a lot more time to spend with my child. However the feeling did not last long. Yes, I enjoyed spending more time with my daughter, but something was still missing. It took awhile for me to figure out what it was. I was missing a career. At the moment I was just some one's employee, mother, and wife. I served a purpose to many people. I did not have a purpose that was for, well, me. So for the next nine months I went to school and received my certification in television broadcasting. This of course meant that I was away from my daughter from 8am-11:30pm. Majority of the time she was sleeping when I left and when I arrived home. Sometimes my husband would let her stay up late so she could see me.

Shortly before I completed school, I became pregnant with our second child. My husband was working again, so he thought it would be best if I quit my job and focused on what I really wanted to do in my life. I have to be honest. I quit my job, but focusing on my goals went "out the window". I was consumed with my pregnancy and my daughter, and most of the time I was just out right lazy! I kept putting it off for "tomorrow".

After my son was born, I learned the true meaning of motherhood. He was a constant cryer (with me anyway). I couldn't put him down, not even while he was sleeping. Months later I somehow had him on a schedule that worked for me. I decided to start modeling (it was something I always wanted to do).

I had one problem....I was overweight (too the modeling world). SO WHAT!! I did not care....I was going to model no matter what. I felt that if I waited for everything to be perfect I would never do it. So I told myself I am going to model while I lose weight. I found some photographer who could help me start my portfolio. This what I ended up...





Man was I scared! I expected the photographers to laugh at me, or tell me I was too big too shoot. They did this for free after all! That did not happen at all! Instead, each and every single one of them provided me with great useful tips. I gained confidence and I learned that no matter what we look like there is room for just about anyone in the modeling world. I even did a maternity photo shoot...


My goal was to show the true image of motherhood (no photo shop here...lol)

Honestly, when I became pregnant with my third and final child I found myself in the same slump. After she was born it seemed that all I did was the bare minimum (feed the kids, minimal housework, etc). I was depressed. It could have been postpartum depression, but it was not a good fit for me. One day, when my husband was home, he noticed that majority of my time was spent nursing the baby. If I was not nursing her, then I was simply holding her and she is not the type of baby who cries when someone puts her down (she allows me to get a lot done). When my husband took notice of this he said to me "Baby, no disrespect, but you are more than a pacifier, you need to get it in gear.". I was mortified that he noticed, but he was right!

But what did I have to "get in gear, exactly"? I needed to decided what would truly make me happy. Here is my list: get in shape, work for myself, master motherhood as much as possible, become a published author, and model.  At first I thought this is going to take up a lot of my time, and I was worried about being selfish. I mentioned my concerns to my husband and he reminded me that if I am not happy, our children will not be happy. I needed to finally take care of me, even if it meant saying "NO" to his request.

I use to believe that being a mother meant giving up selfish ways. However, there is a problem with that way of thinking; everything makes you feel selfish when you become a mother. When I work, I feel guilt for not spending enough time with my kids. When I am not working, I feel guilty about the lack of income. If I shop for myself I feel guilty because I think this is money that can be spent on the kids. Bottom line, when I started doing stuff for myself, I realized that I still had plenty of time to spend with my children and they were happier!! 

Please do not be afraid to do whatever your dreams are! I do not care how old you are! I am almost thirty and I modeling! Get it together, Domina!!


June 8, 2010

Think Like A Domina

Today turned out to be such a beautiful day, and I am not talking about the weather! It simply was because I claimed it to be so. At times I wake up and despise how I think the day will turn out. My mind instantly thinks of the task I do not feel like doing. "I do not feel like waking up and getting Queen ready for school", "I HATE working out.", "Why do the dishes keep appearing in the sink?". I found myself complaining about everything! On top of the complaints, I have my worries. I worry about the bills, transportation, family, and the list could go on! In my opinion this not how a powerful woman thinks. This is not how a true Domina thinks. How can I be a Domina if I do not have control of my feelings?

Normally I do not complain or worry out loud. I truly do not want to bring anyone down or bother them with my problems. But that does not mean they do not exist. Does that make me any better than the person who does complain out loud? NO! I use to think it did, but the truth is we are both still complaining instead of finding the positive in the situation or finding a solution to fix the problem.

Over the last couple of weeks I have been on a mission to change how I FEEL about the things I  usually complain about. I would not have been able to get through today's workout without a positive attitude. But all I really know so far is to FEEL happy and think positive. I know it sounds hard; who can be positive 100% of the time? I personally do not know anyone who can, but I have met some wonderful people who have come close. My husband is one those people. 

My husband, La Velle La Rue, has been through more strife than anyone I know...(well almost anyone). Here is a quick run down: He is an Army Veteran, he use to weight 300 pounds, suffered from PTSD and severe depression, he has seen the deaths of many Army comrades and close family, has been shot during his tour in Iraq, and at one time was considered pre-diabetic....and that is just the stuff I am comfortable mentioning. 

My point is, if my husband can change for the better (inside and out) than I know I can. He  has read many books to help him with his journey. They have been sitting on my dresser saying "You know  you should read us. The answer is here; just open us and read.".  So I am making an attempt to read one chapter each night before bed. I recently purchased a book that I found appealing. Yeah, so I like the cover..."What cha gotta a problem with that?!" lol....(I'll read those other books later). Any how, here is the book I am currently reading ...
The Laws of Thinking: 20 Secrets to Using the Divine Power of Your Mind to Manifest Prosperity...

So far I have only read chapter one, and I really find it intriguing. At my husband's suggestion, I will  give away this book once I have completed reading it.  Simply because I know there is someone out there who needs it more than lil ole me. Yes, it will be used, but let's think positive...IT'S A FREE BOOK! lol...

Here are some books my husband has read to help him with his mental transformation:
The Yoga of Jesus: Understanding the Hidden Teachings of the GospelsThe Master Key System by Charles F. Haanel, The Secret....

Heread all of these books. These are all pretty short reads, but if you are interested in the message of all three then he suggest reading this book instead...
The Prosperity Bible: The Greatest Writings of All Time On The Secrets To Wealth And Prosperity

It is going to take some practice, but positive thinking here I come!!